Your case, set against what Dutch courts have actually decided

What do courts decide in cases like yours?

Tell our interviewer about your situation in a chat of 20 to 40 minutes. We set it against published Dutch rulings and send you a research report: which comparable rulings exist, what each side asked, what the court decided, and what that means for the points you disagree on.

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Care arrangement

How did comparable rulings go? As the other side asks As you ask 4120 of 5442 as you ask

Closeness of match Hardly comparable Closely comparable Close match

Home / property

How did comparable rulings go? As the other side asks As you ask 37 of 149 as you ask

Closeness of match Hardly comparable Closely comparable Close match

✓ Matches your request2025 · final, first instance

LexFamilie also covers: Youth protectionSupervision orders, placement outside the home, parental authority and the Child Protection Board.Compulsory careCare authorisation, crisis measure and the Care and Coercion Act.Administration, guardianship and mentorshipPlacing assets under administration, the administrator and mentorship.

19,597published family-law rulings read and analysed (published by the Rechtspraak up to October 2026; not every ruling is published)

14,369with outcomes checked against the source today

ECLIEvery reading names the rulings it rests on (ECLI)

October 2000 – October 2026Period of the decisions

Quick count

How many rulings deal with your point?

Choose a point and your situation. You see straight away how many published rulings we have read on it.

1. Which point matters most?

2. Children?

3. Stage of the case?

11,786 published rulings on this point 2000 – 2026

What courts look at

The court decides in the best interests of the child. Decisions keep returning to: the care as it runs now and for how long, the child's age and wishes, the distance between the homes, the parents' working hours and how the parents communicate.

General, from the law and case law; your report counts what the comparable rulings actually decided.

Your report sets your own situation against these rulings, point by point.

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Questions

The questions people ask us

Real questions from people going through a divorce, and what we can answer today from the rulings we have read. Where a number backs a question you see how many rulings it rests on. We never promise an outcome or an amount.

1What counts when child support is set in a case like mine? 3,044 rulings with the child support calculation readIn your report 2Do I have to pay partner support, and for how long? 858 rulings from 2020 onwards with partner support decidedIn your report 3How often will I see my children after the divorce, and what do judges actually order? 2,385 rulings with the care split readIn your report 4Who keeps the house, and can I be forced to sell it? 1,390 rulings that decide on the homeIn your report 5My ex wants to move away with the children. Can they? As a research question

All questions by topic

Children: where they live and how often

How often will I see my children after the divorce, and what do judges actually order?2,385 rulings with the care split readIn your report
Is a 50/50 split realistic, or do judges choose one main home?2,385 rulings with the care split readIn your report
My ex wants to move away with the children. Can they?As a research question
What goes in a parenting plan, and what happens if we cannot agree on one?As a research question
We have a young child. Does the child's age change the care arrangement?3,646 rulings with the children's agesIn your report

Child support: what counts

What counts when child support is set in a case like mine?3,044 rulings with the child support calculation readIn your report
They ask for more than I earn. What counts as what I can afford (draagkracht)?2,432 rulings with the payer's ability to payIn your report
I lost my job or cut my hours. Does the court still count my old income?As a research question
Can child support be changed after the divorce?As a research question
From which date does child support start, and can it be backdated?1,315 rulings with a start dateAs a research question
I share the care. What is the care discount (zorgkorting) and how do courts apply it?As a research question

Partner support: do I pay it, do I get it

Do I have to pay partner support, and for how long?858 rulings from 2020 onwards with partner support decidedIn your report
My ex has their own income. Can they still get partner support?As a research question
Can partner support be reduced to zero, or waived in a prenuptial agreement?As a research question
We were married a short time. Is partner support still possible?108 rulings with the marriage durationIn your report

The home and the property

Who keeps the house, and can I be forced to sell it?1,390 rulings that decide on the homeIn your report
My ex lives in the house and will not cooperate. What can a court do?As a research question
How is the house valued, and does the valuation date matter?As a research question
We both signed the mortgage. Am I liable if my ex stops paying?As a research question
Does our property regime decide who gets what?1,680 rulings with the property regimeIn your report
My ex has a company. Does it count in the split?As a research question

Process and conduct

Does refusing mediation or blocking contact hurt me in court?As a research question
What is decided in interim measures, and how long does a case take?As a research question
Is it worth going to appeal?In preparation

Child and partner support: we show which inputs courts take into account, not an amount to expect.

Your lawyer knows the law. This shows you what courts did with it.

Statutes say what may happen. Rulings show what does happen: how courts weigh care schedules, incomes, a shared home or a claim for partner support when the facts look like yours. We have read thousands of published decisions, extracted what was requested and what was decided, and count what courts did when the facts looked like yours.

How it works

Make an account, talk to our interviewer

Start for free: a short chat of about 15 messages, in English or Dutch, asks about your situation and shows the 4 most important questions it raises. After a purchase the chat goes on as deep as you like. It digs deeper where something matters to you and moves on once it is clear. It never asks for names, addresses or exact dates.

Choose your questions and pack

Change the wording of each question where you like and pay for a package of 4, 10 or 25 (from € 99). After paying you can keep talking to gather more questions, and move to a larger package for the difference. You start the research when you are ready.

We match and research

Your case is matched against the rulings we have read, comparing children, incomes, care, procedure stage and more. Each reading is a count of individual rulings, with the number of rulings it rests on.

Receive your report

You get a personal link to your PDF by email as soon as your research is ready. Every ruling in it is named by its ECLI number, so you can look it up.

Examples

See what your report looks like

Every reading comes with three scales: how comparable rulings went, how many rulings that rests on, and how closely those rulings match your case. The rulings behind them are real; the client is fictional.

Every score is a sliding scale. The dot shows where the rulings we read come out; no dot means the score does not apply. A count of published rulings, not a chance.

One client, four wishes: what the scales show

The same fictional client, with different wishes, run against the same rulings. A dot on the right is what you hope to see, but a dot in the middle or on the left is just as useful: it tells you what to prepare.

Care arrangement

Main residence with you; the other side wants alternating

How did comparable rulings go? As the other side asks As you ask 4120 of 5442 as you ask

Closeness of match Hardly comparable Closely comparable Close match

In 4120 of the 5442 comparable rulings the court decided what you ask for. The other 1322: alternating in 157 (what the other side asks), with the other parent in 1165.

How to keep your position strong

It can help to keep doing what supports your position: a stable routine, a dated care log and factual communication.
It can help to keep messages with the other parent short and about the children; your own conduct can be raised against you.
It can help to prepare answers to the other side's arguments (chapter 3) before the hearing.

Learn from the rulings that went the other wayECLI:NL:OGEAA:2018:650ECLI:NL:OGEAA:2019:784ECLI:NL:OGEABES:2026:150The court's reasons are in these rulings. What the court pointed at there is what you can prepare for.

Home / property

You want the other side to take over the house; they want to sell

How did comparable rulings go? As the other side asks As you ask 53 of 149 as you ask

Closeness of match Hardly comparable Closely comparable Close match

In 53 of the 149 comparable rulings the court decided what you ask for; in 96 it decided otherwise: sold in 43 (what the other side asks), allocated to you in 37, left open in 16.

How to strengthen your position

It can help to make your plan complete: an independent valuation, financing proof and a deadline.
It can help to agree on a valuer with the other side, or to propose how one is chosen.
It can help to prepare a fallback (a sale with a clear procedure) so the court has a workable order either way.

Learn from the rulings that went the other wayECLI:NL:RBLIM:2026:6845ECLI:NL:GHAMS:2023:852ECLI:NL:GHSHE:2023:849The court's reasons are in these rulings. What the court pointed at there is what you can prepare for.

Home / property

You want to keep the house; the other side wants to sell

How did comparable rulings go? As the other side asks As you ask 37 of 149 as you ask

Closeness of match Hardly comparable Closely comparable Close match

In 112 of the 149 comparable rulings the court decided otherwise than you ask: sold in 43 (what the other side asks), allocated to the other side in 53, left open in 16. In 37 it decided what you ask for.

How to improve your position

It can help to show that you can finance a takeover on your own: an indicative mortgage offer or a statement from your bank.
An independent valuation can help, so the price is not the dispute.
It can help to propose concrete terms: a deadline, who pays the costs until the transfer, and a sale as fallback if financing fails.

Learn from the rulings that went the other wayECLI:NL:RBLIM:2026:6845ECLI:NL:RBOVE:2026:3197ECLI:NL:GHAMS:2023:852The court's reasons are in these rulings. What the court pointed at there is what you can prepare for.

Care arrangement

You want alternating residence; the other side wants the children with them

How did comparable rulings go? As the other side asks As you ask 157 of 5442 as you ask

Closeness of match Hardly comparable Closely comparable Close match

In 5285 of the 5442 comparable rulings the court decided otherwise than you ask: with the other parent in 1165 (what the other side asks), with you in 4120. In 157 it decided what you ask for.

How to improve your position

It can help to write a care plan the court can carry out: who brings the children to school, handovers, holidays, who covers which days.
It can help to show stability: housing near school, your working hours and the back-up care you have arranged.
It can help to keep a dated care log; a record over months carries more weight than a statement.

Learn from the rulings that went the other wayECLI:NL:RBDHA:2025:23207ECLI:NL:RBDHA:2025:21907ECLI:NL:RBDHA:2026:10658The court's reasons are in these rulings. What the court pointed at there is what you can prepare for.

Child and partner support: what courts took into account

We do not rate these amounts. They depend on too many variables: incomes, the earning capacity of a spouse who does not work, need, ability to pay and the care split. Instead the report counts how often courts state each input.

See a complete example report

The same fictional client, as a 4-question and as a 10-question report. One chapter per question: three scales, the rulings we read and which way each went, how they add up, and what these cases teach.

44-question example (Starter)Main residence, the house, child support, partner support.PDF → 1010-question example (Plus)The four above, plus time with the children, ability to pay, earning capacity, start date, relocation and private money.PDF →

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The client is fictional. Published rulings are a small, non-random part of all cases and the ratings are not predictions.

What is in your report

Comparable rulings, listed

The ECLI number, year and level of each ruling, how closely it resembles your case and whether it went the way you ask.

What courts weigh

For child and partner support we do not rate the amount: it depends on too many variables. We show which calculation inputs courts took into account.

Three scales per point

Where comparable rulings came out, between as the other side asks and as you ask, from a count of rulings; how many rulings that rests on; and how closely they match your case. Not a prediction.

Practical next steps

Tactics and an evidence checklist, each tied to a named finding.

Limits stated plainly

Sample sizes, interim versus final decisions, changes in the law and why published rulings are a small, non-random part of all cases.

We tell you when the data is thin

Published decisions are a small part of all divorce cases, and they are not a random sample. Where we find too few comparable rulings to say anything responsible, your report says so instead of guessing: you see the individual rulings and the word "not enough cases". Nothing here is a probability, a guarantee or a substitute for your lawyer.

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Questions and answers

What counts as a question?

One point of your case that you want researched, for example the care arrangement, child support, partner support, the home, or a point of your own. Your pack states how many you get. You choose them during the interview.

Is this legal advice?

No. It is research on published decisions. It does not predict the outcome of your case, is no guarantee and does not replace your lawyer. Discuss every step with your lawyer.

What if there are too few comparable rulings?

Then the report says so for that point, with the number of rulings found and no rating. We never present a pattern the rulings cannot support. See the terms for how we handle this.

How fast do I get my report?

You receive a personal link to the PDF by email as soon as the research is ready.

What language is the report in?

The report comes fully in the language you choose, English or Dutch. Only the verbatim quotes from the rulings stay in their original Dutch, so you can check them against the source.

What do you do with my data?

Your answers are used to produce your report. Names, addresses and exact dates are never asked for, and you choose how long we keep your answers: delete right after the report, 30 days or 12 months. An AI model supports the interview; email addresses, phone numbers, postcodes and exact dates are masked before anything is sent to it. See the privacy statement.

How many rulings have you read?

19,597 published Dutch family-law rulings from October 2000 to October 2026; 14,369 of them yield usable outcomes. Your report states how many rulings each count rests on.

Do you rate child support and partner support amounts?

No. Those amounts depend on too many variables: incomes, the earning capacity of a spouse who does not work, need, ability to pay and the care split. We show which of these inputs courts took into account, but we do not tell you an amount to expect.

Can I do the interview with my own AI assistant?

Yes. From your free interview you can download our interview script and have the conversation in ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini or Copilot. At the end you get one block of text that you paste on your order page. Note: what you tell it falls under that company's terms, not ours.

Can lawyers use it?

Yes, with the same packages. Choose 'Professionally, for a client' when ordering for an invoice in your practice's name. For a package made for your practice, or the API we are building for larger users, see the page for lawyers.

How do AI and the checks work?

An AI model supports the interview and the reading of rulings. Every quote in a report is checked by code, letter for letter, against the ruling itself, and a person checks every report before it is sent. A report can still contain mistakes or miss something: we do not promise an error-free or complete report.

What do you do with my answers?

We use your answers only for your own report. They are not used for advertising, not sold and not used to train AI. We improve the interview with published rulings and invented test cases, never with customers' answers.

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